Working from home provides more time with my kids because with no commute, I’m able to turn off my computer and go straight to kid time. While I don’t have mama guilt about working–it makes me a better mother–its important to me to have quality time with them each day. I start early in the morning so I can end early and carve out some time just me and the boys, usually from 430-6pm.
The hard part is defining quality time and not feeling pressure to DO an activity. That cuddling up on the couch and enjoying their favorite shows (while I may or may not be on Instagram) can be quality time, too. And having them help me make dinner and clean up the house is important skill building time. Sometimes we snuggle or make a yummy treat. We have done science experiments or just laid around. Mondays we usually go to the library and get some new books. Sometimes I just shove them outside and shut the sliding glass door.
Because lets be honest, some days I’m cranky. Some days THEY are cranky. But I try to remind myself that I don’t have to be perfect all the time (and neither do they). That I am their real human mother, not some idealistic version of MOM. We are NOT a Pinterest account.
There are days I have to work during this time so I take help from the TV or our fenced in back yard. Or I just get them out of the house so I don’t have to pick up their toys for the 1000th time. But then there are days where we make a volcano explode or play monster for an hour, or read a chapter book on the couch.
Overall, I make sure to use the time to kiss and love them, no matter what we are doing. This special time helps me feel balance and fulfilled–even if it makes me tired and a little crazy. But isn’t that what a 2 and 4 year old are for?